In the society that we live in, violent situations such as war, is a big controversy topic. Some agree it is needed to end conflict and some disagree because a lot of people lose their life to a bullet or much worse. Not only can violence kill somebody but destroy families. But if you go deeper into it you will come across many ways that it is more bad than good. For example, the person who you were before a war isn't who you are after. This is because they are put through many obstacles that will break that sympathetic human creating someone who is very cold. This can impact families who have to deal with a veteran who is mentally damaged with survivor's guilt or PTSD.

According to a study/article done by Guidhi “My faith in nonviolence” discusses how in many situations the law of love has answered more than the law of destruction. This means that the use of sympathy and communication problems were solved better than ones with violence. Guidhi states = “My daily experience, as of those who are working with me, is that every problem lends itself to solution if we are determined to make the law of truth and nonviolence the law of life. For truth and nonviolence are, to me, faces of the same coin.” In other words, violence cannot occur if situations were solved more consciously instead of quick action. The truth will set you free from many situations. This supports it because if families are more rooted they won't have to deal with a loss or the need of a father/mother figure. A family being rooted and together is very beneficial for many reasons; the kids will be secured and not always having to wonder where and when their Father/ Mother will be back or if they died. It's a lot to deal with at a very young age.  

Now for the people who will be life savers and believe violence is the only way world problems are solved will go into the veterans blindsided. The reason why they are blindsided in my opinion is because they do not know what they are gonna be put through; tests that destroy a individual creating somebody they were never meant to be. It sometimes can be a character trait gone or worse like PTSD or soldier’s guilt. When researching how veterans are affected by warfare I found a source written by  MAGGIE PUNIEWSKA “ Soldiers guilt” discusses what goes through a veterans head and how it may impact a family. “Some of these soldiers describe experiences in which they, or someone close to them, violated their moral code: hurting a civilian who turned out to be unarmed, shooting at a child wearing explosives, or losing trust in a commander who became more concerned with collecting decorative pins than protecting the safety of his troops. Others, she says, are haunted by their own inaction, traumatized by something they witnessed and failed to prevent.” In detail of what Maggie is trying to get across with this statement is majority of the time soldiers who seen situations that couldn't be prevented or their own inaction may trigger soldiers guilt. It may lead to that because they will blame themselves for something to the extent of becoming very depressed and on edge. This connects to my claim on how violence can destroy families because soldiers guilt is something that is connected to PTSD just a bit worse. Since it's similar to PTSD symptoms such as loss of interest or pleasure in activities, guilt, or loneliness. This may take a toll on the children's life because they need to be engaged with their parents to feel and know they are loved and not a burden. Loss in interest can cause a lot of issues in a relationship because they are too damaged to sometimes acknowledge they are still in a relationship.

In conclusion violence has had more of an affect on veterans and families than it has on the main problem`w. Violence affects veteran mental health causing them to feel guilty due to situations they had no control over; PTSD that can lead to suicide. Not only the veterans are impacted due to warfare but their families have to deal with this issue that will restart every single day. What I mean by this is that PTSD is something that need more attention and patience to deal with because the feel as if they are still under attack.  

Sources used:

https://msw.usc.edu/mswusc-blog/veteran-mental-health/

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/07/healing-a-wounded-sense-of-morality/396770/

Paper Article written by Guidhi  

When growing up with advanced technology and having many social media platforms we tend to lose who we truly are, to act like somebody we are not,or to be “known”. For example, we tend to follow the trends that are out and download the new apps that are most popular to feel included. It's all about trying to be relevant in the social media eye. This usually is called Dissociation because we change our actions, the way we react to certain incidents to seem cool or relatable  even though deep down you are not that type of individual. This isn’t only with social media, the society tends to be our #1 judge when it's time for us to be our authentic selves. We are so afraid to show who we really are, that we enter a state of depression or feel very comfortable in bad situations.

When researching double life in a homosexual perspective I found a website, “The psychological issues of being in and out the closet” by Jack Drescher. He discusses   of gay men and women, periods of difficulty in acknowledging their homosexuality, either to themselves or to others, and how it can lead to depression and anxiety. In the article it states:“Through dissociation of anxiety-provoking knowledge about the self,  whole double life can be lived and yet, in some ways, not be known.”  Dissociation tends to be very common when an individual starts to recognize they are different sexuality wise than people around them. Which is when double life starts to occur or even before, they act like a totally different person with a group of friends than how they are with themselves. This supports my stance on how society views affect the way we tend to see and feel about ourselves. We like to use double living as an escape from who we  truly are. I believe it's somewhat an escape route from discovery because on social media or in person we are viewed by how we interact and dress. In order to not be seen as gay, some men dress boyish and some women will throw on earrings even though they don't like them. This connects to me in many ways because growing up I would try different to find “boy-ish” looks that were in style so I can just blend in with the trends even though I didn't feel comfortable.  is the life of a trapped dog in a house. The dog nature is to be free and breathe but since it is stuck in the house all day, it will become very bored and depressed that it will either submit or find another way to get a glimpse of a fun day. This connects to my first point because we aren't able to be who we are because we are scared to be judged so we either stay hidden or break free and be prideful.

While reading through this article it made me remember I was placed in a similar situation living double lives during middle school when I soon realized I was different. I was placed in a situation where I had to act and dress like a man “should” because I wanted to fit in. As a new school day started I walked out my house and checked myself out in the mirror to see if Iooked boyish. My outfit always consists of loose jeans because most guys in my school wear loose jeans because skinny jeans  are viewed to be feminine.

“You look fine, no worries” I would say to myself because I don't want them to find anything suspicious that connects to me being gay.

Once I lock my door I check my block to make sure nobody is out so I can walk alone. I walk and walk until I am half way and fix the sway in my hips until I hear,

“Yo Lando you forgot to pick me up. Aren’t we supposed to be homies?” a friend, but not really named Justin says.

“ I totally forgot,” I respond.

“What was you doing? Trying to fix your walking style?” Justin asks curiously.

“Nah,” I said lying. I was starting to lightly panic because we would make fun of Nathan a guy who didn't care about fitting in that walked like a girl.  At this moment I lived by what people viewed me as which is why I changed the way I dressed and walked because I didn't want people to think I was gay. Yes, it wasn't something I enjoyed because I am very prideful and interactive but that was usually how females were perceived as, so I had act all tough and unsentimental just like a guy is stereotyped to be like. Which is why it connects to how our society tends to make us live by morals that aren't ours in order to fit in or not be judged.

The idea that I had to change my appearance and interactions connects to what Faulkner wrote about masculinity and femininity:“Cultural notions of “feminine” and “masculine” behavior are shaped in part by observations about what women and men do. This kind of ‘gender marking’ tends to discourage women or men from entering “gender-inauthentic” occupations.” Gender marking tends to discourage males and females who decide to work a “masc” or “fem” profession because as years go on many young men and women will look as professionals as if they have a gender tied to it so they feel they aren’t good enough or the men / women working in the dominated field will be made fun of. For example if a women wants to work as a construction worker men will doubt she is capable with leading or lifting heavy object only a man can. This makes her very insecure and wanting to leave because she isn't accepted. This connects to the scene of memory because I had to change the way I acted because they would consider me to be feminine and will probably stop hanging with me to then just bully me like they did to Nathan.

There’s always a standard for men and women to meet; there are always going to be roadblocks ahead. These roadblocks are specific to one’s gender, and we feel pressure to succumb to these challenges to our true identities. However, when we change ourselves to match the gender expectations, we lose a part of our true selves.

A few years ago my sister, Celita, and I always took late night walks. We would walk Hunting park to Juniata even to the boulevard.  Where we would just talk about our future, past, and present.

“Do you ever think she’ll change soon? She responds,

“I don’t know Orlando, she's missing out on you and how much your growing which pisses me off. “

“Just hope she is able to be a parent and help me when I enter high school next year. Because a boy graduates next week.”  I say.

My sister replies “Hopefully she can go. I know you want her to go deep down to see if she's willing to change.

  The night before graduation. I try on khaki pants with my lemonade dress shirt, yellow, white and navy blue striped bow tie, and navy blue suspenders. to calm my nerves. While doing so I practice my cum laude speech a few times. Once I finished I went to my mom’s room, a beige door to ask

“Mom, you have to be up by 7 tomorrow I'll call and check if you're up okay? I get no answer which leaves me curious if she heard me.

“See you tomorrow I can't wait!”

Graduation morning, I woke up at 6:30.  Brushed my teeth and got dressed in the downstairs bathroom. I make a left to head up to check if Angely is ready. Once I see her I say

“Damn Somebody looks really simple and beautiful” she smiles because I look really sharp and a bit mature.

“Did you call your mom to see if she's up?” She asks

So I call her and she doesn't answer so I call twice, three times, the fourth time she answers. “HEY momma you up? On your way?” I ask and she replies with an

“I can't go I have to work I told you.

Once I heard “I can't” I become so heartbroken and beyond furious.

Graduation time and I have nobody to witness me say my lovely speech to the students and receive 4 awards. I'm so happy but broken. A wound that will never heal because it’s an event that will never happen again. An event I did so well in and she missed it for a fucking job. I was so upset she didn't go because wanted to learn and understand that her addiction was something she is struggling with. I just wanted to see that she was trying, that Michelle my mom actually wanted to be a part of my life which she hasn't since.

To be able to feel like a kid I will just stay at my best friend's house. Where I was able to breathe and put the adult pants to the side. I would go every weekend even on holidays.  My mom noticed which made her jealous. New years eve was amazing everybody danced including my mom. Believe it or not, the first time I ever felt connected and seen some me and her. The beautiful Festive day turned into a nightmare. It began when my mom started to call me names to make me irritated, in order to avoid I moved away. 2 am she is still up and everybody wants to go sleep so they hide the extension.  My mom asks me to bring down the extension in her room but I told her

“no she's drunk”.  

After I said that she went upstairs and started a fight, it became physical and she choked me for a good minute then my sister pulled her off. She then  tells me

“Get the fuck out now. Go to Felix house since you love them more.”  I say confused

“I will don't worry. They treat me more like a son than you ever have. Don't worry I won't be here for long.

During the night I cried, just reflecting on how the Alcohol is taking over her life. She is more aggressive and inhuman towards her own kids; this shifted what my view on my mother was. It also made me feel life threatened.

The feeling of being unsafe continued. So one night she came home drunk started a fight with my sister over her graduation. The fight got worse and my mom left for the bar. This made me feel so uncomfortable in my own house so I had to text Lehmann.

“Hey I'm sorry it's late, but I don't feel safe in my house. My mom is drunk. She got into a fight with my sister and I feel unsafe. I say. He responds

“Orlando it's not a problem, I have to pick you up if you don't feel safe. Can you send me your address.”

15 mins later Lehmann came with cops and got me out safe. The next day I had a talk with Martin and Lehmann about her behavior and that I didn't want to go back. I started to live with my best friend Felix.

Weeks later Court approached. Waiting for a courtroom is the most terrible feeling. I felt so many emotions from rejected to enraged. But there was always a piece in me was always wanting to see if she’ll change. That piece wanted her to come and at least fight for me. 3 hours passed and no sign of her. This made me realize that no matter what I'll be the only one there to help and support myself.

The most important people in your life are usually your parents, they show you the right from wrong in this cruel world. They guide you and set a model for you to follow. In this case that is not for me. I had no type of relationship with Michelle my mother. Due to the fact she’s a drug addict. Being a drug addict/parent can ruin a relationship in a matter of months. So you have to fend on your own in order to succeed and live a healthy life.

Too Threatened To Speak Out

Why do people follow leaders with whom they do not agree? Some people fear they are not heard, so they think they are perceived as weak and, consequently, lash out to make themselves feel stronger or face defeat. We live in an era were opinions matter to other people, but our vulnerabilities empower us to follow decisions with which some people may disagree momentarily. We  give other human beings power when our need for harmony among group members overpowers our understanding of what is right or wrong. Some people feel compelled to disregard their responsibilities and adopt the behaviors of their peers.a plane crashes, boys are stranded and try to find ways to get off the island. The author, William Golding exposes this behavior in his novel, Lord of the flies when his characters, such as the littluns, choose to ignore Piggy’s direction and follow Jack despite his irrational decision-making. Though our society has a history of questioning or attacking other peoples’ views in momentary disagreements, the groupthink phenomenon, which shows that people avoid controversial issues to maintain “group cohesiveness,” continues to exist. Golding demonstrates that groupthink overpowers human beings’ rational decision-making skills by exposing how the boys follow. The story shows that  groupthink occurs when humans choose strongest side to strive for group harmony and not be seen differently.

In the beginning of “Lord of The flies” by William Golding, the two boys Ralph and Piggy encounter each other after the plane crash. Once they met each other, they decide to look around the island for resources and people. While doing so, they found a conch and started to use it to lure boys from the crash. After all the boys are found, they decided to elect a leader with an unfair election. “Yeah let's vote for chief. Him with the conch Ralph he should be chief.” Ralph raised his hand for silence “All right, who want Jack for chief, with dreary obedience the choir raised their hands. Who wants me, every hand outside the choir except for piggy then piggy too raised his hand grudgingly into the air” (Pg 22-23). This quote shows how the theory of  groupthink works because as stated earlier, “occurs when a group makes faulty decisions because group pressure.” It shows how groupthink works because if all the boys but the choir didn't raise their hand for Ralph, then Ralph would make fun of him because he was the odd boy out. It resembles groupthink because when the election occurred Piggy was under pressure and was afraid to express any argument or opinion so he just voted without any ethical thinking. This connects to reality because people feel pressured when their friends run for anything that contains power against others. People they feel pressured because when you are friends with somebody they would want you to vote or do something for them since you have the friend title.

The example from the lord of the flies closely resembles the “Survivorship bias” in terms of doing anything they say to get off the island. According to the website Mental Floss, it states that individuals would just act without thinking just to get in a position faster. An example from the website would be how everybody wants to be a entrepreneur because it's easy and you get a lot of money not thinking of how many people who failed. This makes the real world seem really unethical because they are acting without any thought of a effect on any move they make whether it's bad or good.  It also show how the boys are young minded because they only act without purpose and most kids who are 8 to 12 act without any motive.

Later in the novel two the boys decided to make plans, first plan was to make a fire and to get rescued earlier then they were. During this moment, hunger made the boys more anxious causing the boys to be easily irritated with Piggy because he wanted to keep a group near the fire and the choir can go out to hunt. Piggy lost his temper. “I got the conch I got the right to speak. Now look the first thing we ought to have made was shelters down there by the beach Piggy said to Ralph.  Shut up Jack said you didn't even count the littluns like ralph said.” (45 / 46) This quote demonstrates how groupthink overpowers an individual like Piggy because Jack showed ignorances towards Piggy which made him feel awful when all he was trying to do was make shelters to sleep in. It also didn't involve Jack it was him and Ralph. When reading the quote and readers can understand how Piggy felt during that moment because sometimes when people are trying to be a step further then others to help out or in the case they make shelters and get double teamed, it makes us feel awful.  While researching and reading over chapter 2 the word single minded came to the reader's mind. The word “single minded” came to the reader's mind because in the scene the boys aren't listening to Piggy’s idea they are just focusing on building a fire rather building shelter. This also connects to the real world because most people aren't heard in group activities it's mostly one person who has all their ideas spoken on and given through which isn't beneficial.

In the real world, the bandwagon effect plays a huge role with disagreeing and insulting. It plays a big role with how insults are created with group thinking because when researching a source for the bandwagon effect  it states “psychological phenomenon in which people do something primarily because other people are doing it, regardless of their own beliefs, which they may ignore or override.” This connects to group thinking because most people will start believing what others think or do because it is popular and they don't wanna be an outsider. The bandwagon can be seen as  negative or positive. The audience can see it as a negative viewpoint because individuals copy other people actions because they don't wanna be judged or made fun of. It can also be seen as a positive viewpoint because people like having someone to look up to based on style or personality. This connects back to the novel “Lord of The Flies” because jack made a situation that didn't involve him his business telling piggy to shut up and putting him down by telling him he can't even do his own part.  This example connects to the bandwagon effect because the bandwagon effect can be two or more people, in this case Jack decide to insult piggy and decline his suggestion because he wanted to be like Ralph in control.

Groupthink and insults  has always been a way for people to get work or solve arguments easier. It something that people will always do because they are scared of what be said if they didn't agree. Groupthink should not acceptable because we as human beings have a mind of our own and if we spoke our minds I think outcomes would be better. We as individuals will also get stronger from insecurities because we are called names and insulted daily.

You never meant home to me anyway.

Okay

you can do this.

(inhales deeply)

Maybe I can't. No I can't do this, I'm going to tell him. I'm tired of hearing him say that I walk just like a girl or that my voice is too high for him.

(pauses)

But what if he is fine with me being gay. I am his son, right?

I don’t know man, I don't think I can do this, I'm shaking just trying to think what to say

Should I just say, “I'm gay and proud. I don’t care what you’re going to do?”

Or should I not tell him, and just date girls even though I don't like them? I mean that's wrong, right? Playing with their feelings? I'm not a fuck boi

(pauses)

I can't keep this from him anymore man , he’s picking up clues:

Clues like me being around girls more than I am with guys.

Clues like me wearing black nail polish saying I'm emo but in reality I just wanna wear it.

When I was younger my nickname to him was fruit cake so he knew that I was gay.

My mom doesn't care.

She wants me to stay true to myself.

She also told me that when i'm ready to come out do it without regret, if he didn't accept me,

Or if he does do something crazy I can just live with my mom, that's why she left right?

She left Because he would hit her repeated for reasons like when she didn't serve his food once he entered the house from work

Because she didn't want to lay with him because he smelt like a damn whole bar

He used to mark her all up with bruises and busted lips

That's the reason why my brother Matthew isn't here now because she had a miscarriage

Man fuck this, fuck it man, I have to tell him.

Okay I can do this I can do this okay I got it.

Breath, Jonah breath.

(Breaths in and out)

I'm ready

(pauses)

Dad can we talk I have something I wanna tell you please don't scream please dont.

Remember when you used to call me fruitcake because I would act and talk just like a girl?

Well I have to tell you something

(inhales in and out)

I am

(cough)

I am... I am..

(coughs)
I like like guys okay I like guys

(Pauses)

No this isn't a phase you obviously knew I was, because you mocked me on a daily basis.

What are you crazy? Are you? Therapy won't fix this, I am gay and that's what I am you can't change that.

But dad I'm your son are you kidding me

Man I knew you weren’t  going to approve cause you’re a damn homophobe you despise gay people with a passion.

(Starts to get upset)

What! No you listen to me, you can't tell me that I have to date girls to live here I'm not going to live a lie and claim I have feelings for them.

Okay then I will pack my bags and leave.

You never meant home to me anyway.

We never had a son bond anyway

That father and son bond

You never came to my talent shows, never showed up to none of my Father and Son dances at least I was active in school and participated in events

No wonder mom left your miserable ass your so damn judgemental and abusive

Beating her up and making her have a miscarriage

The only brother i’ll only have

But What ever Daniel I’ll be out of your hair after I'm done packing

You know what? Go to hell, asshole.

(Slams door)

“Orlando don't you think it's time to head home, tomorrow is a school day honey?”  

Once I heard that my heart started to pump faster and faster as a grab my bag full of clothes to walk out the door. Just as I started to walk out  the door I can hear my mother screaming at me.  

“You couldn’t come see me you dumb bitch!”,

I maybe could have seen her, but for what for so she can just call me all types of names and make me feel bad about myself. Just after I walk in and I'm shocked, I didn't get cursed out for once I came in the house. Instead I smell some strong odor. I started to wonder was it from outside or inside my house.  I shut the door to see if the smell is still there. It wasn't outside. I know it's coming from upstairs once I close the door. I enter my room.

“who’s there?”

“It's me Orlando I just got home”, mind you it's about 7:00 pm.

As I said I was home to my mom, she looked a little  funny. Her lip was turned, the smell came out her room, and she was paranoid.

“Is she doing drugs again, I thought she promised me she’ll stop.” I say to myself.

At that moment I feel the steam come out my ears because I was so mad. Instead of telling her off I showered and went to bed.  

It's Monday morning, Sep 9 and I am very happy because I love school and can't wait  to make new friends at my new school.  I walk outside my bedroom door I noticed my mom had been up all night because her light had been on all night. “Mom are you up? I'm heading to school.”

As soon as I asked my mom if she was up, she turned her light off not knowing I'm right outside her door. Since I didn't get a response, I begin  to head to school and ignore what just happened so I can start on a good note entering freshman year at SLA.

“OMG you survived your first day of highschool.” I said to myself ready to come back to school for the second day.

When I got off the bus I walked straight  home thinking about all the homework I have to do and will I be able to get to sleep early. When I was walk down the block, I noticed that my mom is in a bad mood. I wondered if it was because she doesn't have money to buy drugs? Or Is it because she got in a fight with my step father? Once I  walked up my front steps she approaches me with a “Do you have money”

instead of “Hi baby! How was your first day?”

But it's fine, I'm used to it already. “I need it for my lunch. Hi to you to.”

As I began my homework, my mother decided to  come in and start to calling me stupid, that I don't love her, and  that I won’t be a anybody in my future.  This all stemmed from me not giving her money.  I stop doing my homework because I really want to become somebody and she doesn't show me any support. I think to myself maybe I can just grow thicker skin and ignore what she says. After I stopped being upset, I started to do more homework and as soon as I lifted my pencil she started to verbally abuse me more. This time by making me think bad about myself more.

Once again I stop because I can't focus. I”ll just do it at school since she is bugging me because she doesn't have drug money..

It's Tuesday, New year's eve. I promised my sister I would spend New year's eve with her and her new boyfriend since I always spend it at my best friend house. Before I stepped into my house, all I smelled is this strong awful odor of throw up. “Why is there throw up near that white couch? It's gonna start to make the couch stink.”

“It's your mother's she was drunk last night and decided to start fights with me knowing I'm pregnant” my sister says walking down the steps.

While I'm walking to the kitchen I see three stacks of bowls that are dirty. “Why aren't the dishes clean! Yall to lazy to wash dishes?” not knowing my mother didn't pay the water bill.

Once I figure out the water is shut off I instantly come towards my mom who stinks very bad and tell her “you need to get your act together first you started drugs again and you start drinking now!”

Now while I get my clothes all I'm doing is regretting that promise I made Monday night because my mother is just gonna drink the night away again.

It's 12:00 AM New Years, Once everybody in my house is done hugging me and my mom get in alil argument because she called me “snotty” just because I didn't want to get her a beer. She than asks me a rude question “Why you gotta be so snotty towards your mother? that's so fucked up.”

I didn't even answer the question I just left upstairs because I didn't want to just like curse at her maybe she’ll start to hit on me next.
Three hours passed and the party is still going on because my mother don't care that everybody is tired, so my sister unplugs her stereo and hides the extension cord. My mom being drunk wanted to still hear music and tried to ask me to get another extension cord, my response towards her questions was a simple “no you're drunk go to bed” turned into a fight. My mom ran up the steps and charged after me by grabbing my neck and shouting, “you're such a snotty, dumb, unaffectionate bitch you know that”.

While she is choking me my sister pulls her off than my mom kicked me out at 3 in the morning. I shout as a threat and a promise “the next time you grab me by the neck you’ll have DHS in your life with a black eye”.  
A month later around 7pm, my mother decided to get drunk again and attack my sister. All I heard was her screaming “you ain't going to have no future” and rumbling.

“Get the fuck out my room, don't worry I'm not coming back home after school tomorrow” my sister says as my mom walks down the steps.

I ask my sister “where she going back to the bar?”

“I don't know and don't care!” She replied.

Once she answered she started to have a dramatic break down which triggered me to talk to Lehmann because i'm so scared my sister will hurt herself. Once I got into contact his reply was “Lando want me to come get you? I'm scared for your safety”

I say “yes please come quick be safe”.

Once Mr.lehmann came to my house the police shows up and break down the door, me leaving with my sister to Lehmann house for the night and my mom getting in the house.

That morning is where my promise came in place. That I would bring DHS back into my mother’s life again.  We had a discussion with my advisor and Mr.lehmann about the incident and if I felt save? As we speak I get emotional and shut down because I feel some weight I had on my shoulders from my mom come. Of course I felt guilty but at the end I felt a little better but I still felt lost. I felt lost because I stood to my promise and me doing that it affected my relationship with my sister, whom I was close with. They took me out my house. I stayed with my best friend until August. Which was the month all the weight and guilt I had on my shoulders vanished because my mother has no legal rights for me. She can't attack me no type of way.  All I can think about is “God is good, God is good.”

Hi, it's Orlando again! Today I am here to talk about Cyberbullying and how it impacts this generation as well. I am also going to talk about my other two blogs which explains how my friend Sara was affected by Cyberbullying and bullying in general, and how cyberbullying is a big issue for teens in high school. My recent blogs mostly explained cyber bullying and why it's important for it to be prevented at all costs. It's also a big part of my grade in English, “The You & The World project”, where you can choose a big issue in the world that you think is important. Cyberbullying is a big issue, because over the year it has increased in schools. Cyberbullying has ranged from bullying about race to sexuality to body type to so many other things, and could lead to self-harm. It's an issue in the world because it isn't getting enough attention. If cyberbullying received the attention that it needs, it could be decreased by 80%.  It's also very important to me because in an article about facts on cyberbullying, it says “95% of people think it's easy to get away with cyber bullying because it's on the internet.” I strongly disagree with this quote because things that are posted on the internet never get deleted so it they will evantually get caught.

In an article by Kaplan University, Cyberbullying and bullying aren’t anything new as long as there is internet, school yards, malls, etc. But y’know, let me tell you something. I think Cyberbullying did get worse, in this generation with the internet and places we love to go you can't get away from it. Bullies will find any way to bully, and the internet isn’t new anymore. People know how to use it against others.  Cyberbullying is always towards young children and teens. If adults are involved in online harassment or intimidation, it is referred to as cyber harassment or cyberstalking. While not all cyberbullying results in suicide, it often can lead to self-destructive behaviors such as alcohol and drug abuse due to the stress, and can cause depression, according to Kaplan University. This is also a great reason why social media tends to have an age restriction, because kids can be immature and harass others.Since teens start to drugs and alcohol because they can't handle the pain so they havea replacement to numb them from it, I think schools can prevent that. I think schools can get involved by providing information to students about legal ramifications of cyberbullying and how it affects their classmates. They can also add it to the policy and code of conduct, because this nonsense needs to stop. We can't have kids keep committing suicide, they’ve barely begun their lives. I think it's a great idea for the school counselor to see each kid who isn't performing their best in school, or becoming nonverbal in schools, so they can feel like they have support.

As for my final part of this project, which is my agent of change, I made a basket of happiness. It contained hard candies, a mason jar with notes, tea packets, a small bottle of nail polish, and some hair ties. I chose to give Sara this “basket of happiness”, because as we text she mentions she doesn't feel happy or loved and this basket contains all that. It's an amazing gift because the notes are categorized by color. Yellow sticky notes are from orange stream, blue ones are from teachers, pinks are from me, and the green notes are from people in other streams. My experience creating this gift for her was very joyful because I got the students and teachers to write positive notes so she can feel as important as she is. I think my project was a success because she was overjoyed with the notes and some of her favorite things.

Overall, my project was very an amazing experience because Sara was very happy. I showed her that she is important to others, not only to me. It was an amazing journey for this quarter, because it's really from the heart and I love when people pitch in and help out for a special somebody in our stream! During this project, I noticed that orange stream can be very judgemental, but they can also be very caring. Therefore, I agree with Ms.Giknis, that we should never underestimate orange stream. If I could do my Agent of change again I would have started my gift a week before grades close because I could have gotten all of my gifts and made my gift even more precious than it already is.

Hi my name is Orlando Aguayo and I'm a upcoming sophomore. So this project has taken place in my Biochem class and Ar class for a final mini project. We all got different elements of the periodic table, my element was Cu which is copper. So in art we had to create a stamp for our element with its atomic number, name, and what's it's used for. For my element which is Copper the atomic number is 29. For my stamp I drew a wire and a outlet because the two tails that hang out is made out of copper.

My element was found in Egypt by the egyptians and was used for Ankh. But later on was found in iraq because the egyptian tribes. Over the years people used it in mechanical engineering, they make electric heaters, Air conditioners, and car engine parts.

I chose to make a wire and outlet  because I used chargers all the time and it's amazing how things work so fast thanks to copper because it connects to energy faster than any other metal. It also is different from others because they usually make things that is very common to draw but I actually researched cool things that are mad out of copper and that was the best piece.

The procedure I followed to make my work the best it can be is by making sure I have great back ground knowledge on it and what things it made with. Than I started to make a couple drawings to see which one was best than made it 4X8. Last but not least I traced it on a piece of cooking paper, than traced on to a foam paper. Finally I chose a color and painted my foam stamp and put it on a paper 6 times and chose the best 3.

Finally if I can do this project again I would make different objects instead of just one object because I could have made my element more look more interesting that's the only thing. But my favorite part of this project is the painting because we chose a color, painted the foam stamp, and added pressure to get the stamp to make the but stamp!

Cyberbullying your worst enemy

As you remember from my previous article, cyberbullying is a really big issue in most schools. The suicide rate has grown tremendously, and students are being affected terribly, including their confidence and motivation in schoolwork. My last post explains why I have a strong opinion on cyberbullying. Which is because nobody deserves anything that brings them down. This is also why I am trying to stop bullying. I am trying to make people have a new and clear view on how things affect others on social media.

Cyberbullying is a big issue in the 21st century. That’s because social media is becoming more popular and cyberbully is becoming much more easier for people. For example, Snapchat and Instagram both allow you to tag and post about somebody. Cyberbullying is a big issue in my life because some of my closest friends almost attempted suicide due to this unsuitable issue. One reason why I say cyberbullying is so easy to occur in the 21st century is because 50% of teens have experienced some form of digital abuse including, but not limited to: spreading lies, violations of trust, and digital disrespect. That’s half of the teens in the U.S.! This is not healthy, because that means cyberbullying is extremely common, and tells me that the victims aren’t standing up for themselves, or if they are, it isn’t working at all.

This leads to my next point on how bystanders can prevent cyberbullying, as well as the victims . In my opinion, bystanders play a big part in cyberbullying incidents, because they are witnesses of these terrible experiences. They can, and should, stand up for the victim. Therefore, bystanders can prevent cyberbullying. According to stop bullying now foundation.org, if the bystanders can’t see a way to help, they should put themselves in the victim’s shoes, because cyberbullying can cause severe issues like anxiety, depression, panic disorders, and can make the person’s life a living hell.

For my original research part of this project, I chose to do an interview. My interview was with a friend named Sara, who has been through the process of overcoming being a victim of cyberbullying, turning into a beautiful young woman. My interview had very personal questions that were very useful for my project. For example, my first question to Sara was, “what's your opinion on cyber bullying?”and she answered honestly stating, “obviously it's bad, but it's not something that is able to be stopped because of the technology in the 21st century.” Her answer is important because she has been through  cyberbullying. It is also important because I connect with her and her opinion. Another question I asked was, “If you were bullied, can you explain how was that event?” Which also connects to the question, “how was your reactions towards cyberbullying? Did you try to stop it?” Her response was “when I was cyberbullied, it was everything, it was verbal, emotional, cyber. In the moment I wanted to fight back, but I didn’t because I wanted to prevent it.” She said that it was “painful.” Her answer to this question is very useful because it shows that some victims do try to help but are too weak and not saying they are. I only say she was weak because she had nobody to support her or have affection shown.

For my Agent of Change, I am going to create a nice care package for a survivor of cyberbullying and bullying. I decided to make a care package because the person has been through so much and deserves to feel cared for. I also want to make this person happy for a week and to text her everyday to see how feels. The package will include amazing things to cheer a person up. Not only that, but I think making a care package is a great idea because it comes from the heart, in my opinion it's better to make something with love than buying something.

I want to say thanks to Sara Frunzi for being so strong and supportive to me for this project and in general you have a big heart. I love you, remember your very beautiful and always be happy!

Link to my bibliography

Cyberbullying Deadly Effects

Hi, my name is Orlando Aguayo and my passion for the You and The World project is to try to stop cyberbullying. I have a strong voice for cyberbullying because I wouldn't like to be bullied or have threats thrown at me. It would make me feel so weak and disowned by the world. I'm also interested in cyberbullying because, as of 2017, cyberbullying is one of the biggest reasons why teens have committed or attempted suicide, according to the cyberbullying hotline. It is also the third leading reason why teen deaths occur, the first reasons being car accidents and the second is homicide. One reason why I started off talking about cyberbullying and suicide is because there are many reasons how cyberbullying connects with suicide. It connects to suicide negatively because cyberbullying can be very damaging to teens’ minds. It can lead to anxiety, depression, and suicide. Also, once things are circulated on the internet, they never really disappear, causing the pain to resurface at later times to renew the pain of cyber bullying.

This image is from the movie and shows how cyber bullying affect victims “I feel like nothing”

I am interested in this topic because about a month ago, I watched a movie called Cyberbully, which was mostly showing how bullying can cause ripples in somebody’s reputation, and how cyberbullying can destroy the person (who is getting bullied online) mentally. Another reason I’m focusing on cyberbullying is because there isn't a reliable way to stop cyberbullying. For example, if I were to block the bully’s account, they can easily make a new one unless you stop the bully by controlling the hate. My goal for this project is for students to understand how things you say affect someone mentally and physically. My personal goal is to make someone who has been bullied feel valued by becoming their friend and showing them how important they are to me. My way of learning more about it is by researching more information on cyberbullying. I’ll also learn more by interviewing a victim of cyberbullying.

In this picture it shows that the two girls uploaded a rumor or an inapporiate picture.

Cyberbullying has a connection to me because a friend of mine has very bad anxiety and depression because she was bullied and cyberbullied. It also a connection to me because my friends are the reasons why I am so happy, so when my friends are being hurt physically or emotionally, it also hurts me because they don't feel worth something or they feel weak. This topic is important to know about because over 25 percent of adolescents and teens have been bullied repeatedly through their cell phones or the internet. By cyberbullying someone, the victim might start to feel terrible about themselves, which the whole world can see.  

            This pictures shows how cyberbullying is on social media

Un niño que tiene una familia functional/ a boy who has a family that is dysfunctional

Un niño de una familia donde necesita ser independente/ A family where you have to be independante

Yo veo el hermoso océano claro / I see the beautiful ocean clear

Yo veo mi símbolo del país, el coqui/ I see my country symbol the coqui (little frog)

Yo oigo la música del español / I hear spanish music

Yo huelo la comida que tiene muchos colores/ I smell the multicolored food

Yo saboreo los alimentos ricos y fuertes sabores/ I taste the rich and strong flavored food

Yo toco Los peces en el océano/ I touch the fishes in the ocean

Yo juego domino y escho musica del bachata / I play dominos and listen to bachata music

Leo para divertise/ read books for fun

Como arroz y frijoles y bebo malta / I eat rice and beans and drink malta (spanish drink)

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